One of the most overlooked aspects of religious trauma is enmeshment. It’s rarely named, but often deeply felt. Especially by women who grew up in high-demand religious systems. Enmeshment occurs when your identity is fused with someone else’s emotions, expectations, or beliefs. Instead of having a separate sense of self, you internalize the idea that your job is to keep other people comfortable even at your own expense.
In Mormonism, enmeshment can show up early: you’re expected to follow a very specific path, fulfill prescribed roles, and align your beliefs with the teachings of church leaders. Independent thought, emotional boundaries, or questioning authority are often discouraged.
As a result, many ex-Mormon women find it incredibly hard to separate their own feelings from those of their family or community.
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Understanding enmeshment is a critical part of the healing process. Once you name it, you can begin to notice where your boundaries are missing or blurred. You can begin to reconnect with your own voice and learn how to honor it, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Hi, I’m Chelsey! I’m a licensed therapist and mom who knows firsthand how hard it can be to balance the demands of life, faith transitions, religious trauma, and motherhood. That’s why I’ve dedicated my practice to helping women like you—moms in various stages and transitions of motherhood—feel supported, empowered, and hopeful again.